This weekend, something happened in our home that I’m still holding in my chest. It was one of those moments where the air goes still and every emotion arrives at once—shock, sadness, anger, grief.

It happened on a birthday…

To other adoptive, kinship, and customary caregivers, I want to say this: you are not alone. Openness is a journey, and it looks different for every family. Trust your instincts, listen to your children, and give yourself grace. You’re doing the best you can, and that is enough.

Like a window that’s crystal clear, glass children are often overlooked because so much attention is focused on their sibling’s needs. While they may appear strong and resilient, glass children can feel unseen, their own needs fading into the background.

I was one of those glass children.

I hate summer break. There, I said it.

Change is never easy, and it’s often accompanied by uncertainty, hesitation, and sometimes feelings of disconnect.

As we navigate through this mix of excitement and nostalgia, I can't help but think about a few things I wish we had known back when we were fresh to the whole post-adoption scene.

As prospective adoptive parents begin sort through all the emotions that come post Adoption Resource Event (or ARE), it is important that you continue to equip yourselves during this next phase in your journey.

We know that Baby-delivering storks of our childhood cartoons aren't real—I have to inform you that there is no adoption stork either.

Friend, if you’re feeling overwhelmed and like you’re not doing enough, know that you are taking care of yourself the best way you can in this moment.

For any families who may be struggling with a child who has similar needs, know there is support out there, know that you aren’t alone. And know that we are #stongertogether.

Raising a child with Autism is no easy feat—but having access to a wide network of people who understand what you’re going through can make all the difference in the world.