Why we need Time to attach
Truth be told our children and youth need much more than an additional 15-week attachment leave, but by delivering this attachment leave, the Government of Canada would be standing up for families who are supporting their children and youth's needs when they join their family through adoption, kinship, or customary care.
Time to Attach: Older Youth Adoption
Kids and teens deserve enough time to build these new and complex attachments. 35 weeks is simply not enough time for a youth like me to feel comfortable with an entirely different family, let alone build trust with these unknown parental figures.
3 raisons pour lesquelles les parents adoptifs ont besoin d’un congé parental prolongé
Dès que ma fille a commencé l’école, elle avait besoin de mon attention tous les jours. Toutes les occasions étaient bonnes pour me sauter sur les genoux.
Our Children’s Behaviours Were Wildly Outside of Our Experience
Our elder daughter laments to us that she is “running out of time,” because she was in-and-out of foster care for seven years and didn’t come home with us until she was eleven.
I spoke up about my adoption experience to advocate for change in Ottawa
I spoke up about my adoption experience. I no longer felt alone, because I had all of these wonderful women by my side working to make changes too.
C’est nous qui avons de la chance!
Nous avions une apparence et une odeur différentes, et parlions très peu mandarin. Nous l’avons sortie de l’orphelinat peu après avoir fait sa connaissance pour l’emmener à un hôtel où rien n’était pareil.
We had to choose between our grieving nieces and our financial security
They had been neglected, witnessed domestic violence and possibly been abused. They showed many signs of being traumatized.
My adoption leave expired before we even got our children home
Our doctor likened our experience to PTSD, after we adopted our twins internationally.